We're caught up in deliberating 90 shades of "why".  No one cares.  We have all, long since, cast our lot, aligning with one or the other polarized attractors in our indivisible common field. Best we just clearly articulate our personal "was...is...will" without explanation.  Let's stop shouting our obviously biased "why", and just "get it on".  Sooner or later we will reach a new calm.